Reader’s Question: To Groom or Not to Groom
Hi Y’all,
As you know, I love to blog about the benefits of laser hair removal. I’ve blogged about bikini laser hair removal more times that I can remember. This weekend, I received a very interesting question from a reader, and thought I’d answer it in today’s blog:
Q: I’m a recent divorcée, freshly released from the shackles of a crummy 13-year marriage. I wouldn’t exactly call myself a cougar, but I’ve gone on a couple dates with a younger guy I met at the gym. I’m sure we’ll end up having sex (it’s only a matter of time). We got hot and heavy on the couch and the poor guy seemed put-off by my somewhat bushy bikini line. I’m trying to adjust to the new trends, I’m working out and eating well and generally playing catch-up after 13 years spent in sweatpants doing laundry at home. I know that bikini grooming is a must now, but I didn’t think it was normal to take it all off… I was under the impression that, (1) no-hair down-there is for strippers and promiscuous young girls; and (2) permanent hair removal is drastic and draconian (I remember trying electrolysis… Eeek!)
Can you provide some insight? Am I hopelessly outdated?
A: Obviously you’re not hopelessly outdated! You’re doing your best to adjust to single life (it’s not easy for anyone!).
It’s true that things have changed in the grooming department. I’m in my 20s and I remember when I adjusted to removing the sides of my bikini hair, and then more and more… until there wasn’t really any hair left… I don’t know who’s to blame, (or who to thank), but the bottom line is that it’s extremely convenient and comfortable to be hair free down there.
But I must caution you. If you’re going to start waxing and shaving down there, you can forget about ever being smooth or comfortable. You’ll be in a perpetual cycle of red bumps, ingrown hairs, stubble and running to the waxing lady. The only way that I recommend to fully enjoy a hairless bikini is to do laser hair removal. The laser hair removal session takes less than 10 minutes per treatment and you need between 4 and 6 visits to be completely hair free.
Grooming “down there” on your bikini line is more than merely normal, just like keeping your armpits and legs smooth; it’s expected! A woman who’s lazy with her grooming, as you have found, risks being labeled as old fashioned and unsanitary. And if your boy-toy is used to a tidy Brazilian, he may find anything else very off-putting.
Having said that, I understand where you’re coming from… I too have also felt irritated about being “forced to conform” to an “aesthetic ideal” (although in my case it was more about haircuts and skinny jeans).
The important thing you should know is that a hairless bikini should not be a deal-breaker in a relationship. BUT, I encourage you to try it. It can be fun and freeing. You might even be in for a (second?) sexual awakening,
Good luck!
xxx Laser Gal
